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Aug 31, 2010
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Be honest
by: Anonymous

The best way to decide whether or not you invite guests who aren't within a comfortable driving distance of your shower is to openly reflect on your motives. If you're truly close to this person, you're likely to know if they're planning to be in the vicinity of your shower on the date it's held. If they have notified you of a trip that coincides with your shower date and location, then they'd probably be thrilled to be invited!

Otherwise, let's be honest with ourselves and each other. Not many of us would feel slighted if we live in upstate New York and don't receive an invitation to jet over to southern California for a 4-hour party, no matter how much we love the mother-to-be and would enjoy her company. Realistically, showers don't provide an opportunity to spend much quality time with the guest of honor.

A birth announcement is much more appropriate and avoids what could very well be perceived as a thinly veiled gift request. And in this economy, it's especially nice to be considerate of people's financial restrictions, which even your closest friends and family members may not openly share with you.

Or, maybe it's best to skip the above advice and just ask yourself, very honestly, if you would like to be invited to travel long distance to your potential invitee's shower?

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Aug 31, 2010
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The best way to decide whether or not you invite guests who aren't within a comfortable driving distance of your shower is to openly reflect on your motives. If you're truly close to this person, you're likely to know if they're planning to be in the vicinity of your shower on the date it's held. If they have notified you of a trip that coincides with your shower date and location, then they'd probably be thrilled to be invited! Otherwise, let's be honest with ourselves and each other. Not many of us would feel slighted if we live in upstate New York and don't receive an invitation to jet over to southern California for a 4-hour party, no matter how much we love the mother-to-be and would enjoy her company. Realistically, showers don't provide an opportunity to spend much quality time with the guest of honor. A birth announcement is much more appropriate and avoids what could very well be perceived as a thinly veiled gift request. And in this economy, it's especially nice to be considerate of people's financial restrictions, which even your closest friends and family members may not openly share with you. Or, maybe it's best to skip the above advice and just ask yourself, very honestly, if you would like to be invited to travel long distance to your potential invitee's shower?

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Dec 16, 2009
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Soooooo Helpful!
by: Anonymous

I had no idea what I should do and this has put my mind at ease! Thanks!

Jun 28, 2009
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Should you invite guests you have not spoke to in 6+ months?
by: Anonymous

Hello, should you invite a guest that you have not seen or spoke to in over 6 months?
Just looking for opinions and advice. Thank you!

Feb 05, 2009
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Out of State Baby Shower Invitation
by: Anonymous

I received a baby shower invitation for my husband's 'distance' cousin's daughter. We live in the midwest and she lives out west. I considered this another opportunity to get yet some more money/gift card. The bridal shower and wedding were out west, too. Mind you, we sent a gift for each of those events, and the 'daughter' has been to town since her wedding. We have not seen her or her parents in a couple of years, so, yes - when I received the baby shower invitation -I wrote a note wishing them the best and sorry I won't be able to attend... no money and no gift card. Enough is Enough. In my opinion, this invitation is very obviously for the money or gift card.

Jan 28, 2008
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Exactly what I was looking for!
by: Virginia

I'm hosting my sister's shower and my mother, who now lives in another state, doesn't think I should send invites to other out-of-the-area relatives. She thinks it would be seen as a money-grabber, I think it would be rude not to send the invitation. I think I will stick to my instincts and invite them all. Thanks!