Baby Shower For Inlaws

by Robin
(Oregon)

I was asked to give a shower (for my daughter) with my daughters sister-in-law for my daughter's husband's family. Am I obligated to host a shower for the inlaws?

Our Answer:

Hi Robin,

Thanks for your etiquette question. You are never "obligated" to host a baby shower if you do not want to. Most likely she is contacting you because she needs help and figures since you are the grandmother to be that you would be willing to do so. She is putting you in an interesting position, but I don't think it was necessarily done on purpose.

I don't know her reasons for not asking his mom. Or...if this is the only baby shower that is going to be thrown for your daughter or not.

It is my personal opinion that the baby shower should be opened up to more than just his side of the family if they are asking you to help host. You shouldn't have to be paying for a party just for the inlaws when the whole family can be involved.

If you decide to help host the baby shower, perhaps you can suggest it be a combined family baby shower, so your side can also enjoy the party.

I hope that helps. Good Luck!