Children Free Baby Shower

by Maria
(Miami)

What is the proper way to say no children allowed on the invitation for a baby shower?

Our Answer:

Thank you for etiquette question. Wording the baby shower invitation correctly can be a little tricky. The best way is to let the expectations be known as clearly and softly as possible on the invitation.

I gave a few suggestions in an answer recently for a no kids baby shower that might be of help to you as you word the invitation.

I also came across another wording example recently that might also work for you...

Leave your housework, the phone, your kids and any other distractions at home and come help (name) celebrate the upcoming arrival of her new baby!

Good luck with planning the baby shower!

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I consider 13 a safe age...
by: Nisha- Editor

It is tragic that a miscommunication has caused a rift in your family. I personally consider 13 to be a safe age for baby showers. I don't know the reason they wanted to exclude children from the party, whether it was to keep the focus on the mom-to-be or if there were some adult themed content at the party. It depends on the personality of the child and how well they behave at adult functions, but generally at age 13 they are usually able to hold still and interact well at baby showers.

I am so sorry that feelings have been hurt. With the last minute facebook message, they must have been worried about kids attending. I am not sure if your daughter had younger kids than 13 or if the message was intended for you granddaughter. I would hate for this incident to continue to cause trouble within the family. I would let your daughter-in-law know that the message she sent hurt her 13 year old niece. She should know why everyone did not show at the party and be given the chance to apologize. She might not realize that she hurt feelings. Letting it out in the open allows everyone to heal and come back together as a family. Best of luck!

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Uninviting family children at last minute
by: Anonymous

I understand why people might not want children at the baby shower. What do you think about this. The host forgot to write adults only on the invite. A month later and three days before the event. My sister in law face booked my daughter. " sorry no kids please" my 13 year old granddaughter was so hurt. And wanted to know what she had done to be excluded. Should they have at least made a phone call and invited them over after. Or sucked it up at that point? Ultimately we were all so offense the mother to B's grandmother, aunt , cousin and sec on cousin did not attend. And the family has not spoken since.

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Leave the kids home please
by: Mariam

I think it is understandable to have an infant at a baby shower, but in most cases, kids should be not allowed to attend. The last baby shower I was at, a child was constantly climbing around, getting into the food and trying to open the presents. It spoiled whole mood of the party. I know that the mom who brought the child was choosing between bringing the child or not being able to come, but in her case, I feel it was best for her to stay home. I have no problems with well-behaved children who are able to sit in their seats, but the active kids that are all over the place should not be at baby showers.

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Shower Dilemma
by: Darla

I can't figure out where to submit my question, so I'm just typing it here! My husband and I live near his family, which is 5 hours away from my family. When we got married, I had ten bridesmaids- half of them were from home, and the other half from out here- so they hosted 2 separate showers for me, and both sides of families and friends attended. However, now that I'm pregnant, my mom is hosting my hometown shower for me, but my mother-in-law has not mentioned anything about hosting a shower out here. It's ridiculous to think that anyone would travel 5 hours for a shower, otherwise, I would just tell my mother to invite my husband's side. How do we address this situation? I have no other family members out here- so who else would host it? I can't possibly expect my bridesmaids to host my baby shower- so isn't it my mother-in-law's responsibility? I don't want to "ask", as I feel rude, but I'm a little surprised that she hasn't offered. Any advice in this situation?

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"Adults Only Please"
by: Anonymous

I don't get offended when I see "Adults Only Please" at the bottom of an invitation so that is an option. Or you could word it so it is known that it's a "Ladies Only" event.

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