Expecting 3rd Child

by Toni
(Greenwood, SC)

I am expecting my third child; however, it has been 10 1/2 years since my last child, and we have NOTHING. My friends want to throw a baby shower. Is it appropriate since it has been so many years since the last child?

Our Answer:

Hi and congratulations on baby #3!

Every child deserves to be celebrated, and you are well within etiquette bounds to allow your friends to throw you a baby shower. You are going to need a lot of help getting the supplies after such an age gap. You have great friends to want to help you out with it!

Good luck with the new baby and the baby shower!

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My advice for how to react...
by: Nisha- Editor

Hi there,

It is hard to not show resentment when people show disdain for your celebration and then want you to support their event. I totally understand your feelings. It was wrong for her mother to act that way. But I think the best thing to do in this case is to take the higher road and choose show your support. I know it might be tempting to do the same thing and get 2 baby bottles because that is how your family was treated. ;) But I think you will feel better inside by forgiving their actions and choosing to treat them better. By them throwing a 3rd baby shower, I tend to think that they now understand that all babies deserve a celebration. If you absolutely do not want to attend the party but know they need diapers, why not create a lovely diaper cake and drop it by the house a day or two before the party? That way you are still showing support without actually attending the party. Hope that helps! Best of luck with the baby shower!

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3rd baby in 5 yrs.
by: Anonymous

I have been invited to a baby shower for a 3rd baby. The couple has 2 girls ages 5 & 2 and the new baby girl. She should have all she needs for the new one with the exception of diapers. At the same time I resent it because when my daughter was pregnant with her 2nd after 6 yrs. and a shower was given the mother of this young lady made the comment that she didn't think it was proper to have a shower for the second baby. She did attend and gave a 2 pack of baby bottles as a gift. They are a very well off family and I found this a bit unkind. I am not really interested in attending the baby shower but feel like I am way off base.

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5TH BABY SHOWER
by: Anonymous

Is it proper etiquette to have a baby shower for every child you have, this person is on baby #5 and has had a baby shower for every child ranging in ages 10, 7, 5, 2?????

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Me too!
by: kasi

Hi and congrats on the new baby! I'm in the same boat. It's been over 5 years since I had my last baby, and now a new one on the way. I held onto almost all my baby stuff until about 6 months ago when I gave it all away to a friend. wasn't sure if I should have another shower or not...

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