When you are considered a mother to be and when you are not

We are disagreeing at work and need a correct answer. We have a lady that is pregnant with her second child the majority of us feel she is still considered a mother to be. We have a smaller % that feels that with this being her second child she is not considered that anymore. We would appreciate an answer so we would know in the future as well as now. Have a great day and thank you.

Our Answer

Hi there,

Thank you for your etiquette question. I think you are referring to whether a second child deserves a baby shower or not. Traditionally, baby showers used to only be held for the first child. That has changed over the years. Now it is acceptable to hold a baby shower for baby #2 and beyond. A baby shower is a celebration of life and love. It is a group of family and friends coming together to show support for a mom and a new child.

The first baby shower is still usually the biggest. A lot of people use a "baby sprinkle" for the second child. It is where people "sprinkle" the new mom with gifts instead of "showering" her with them. Since less supplies are usually needed with a second child, the baby sprinkle is perfect for it. Here is more information on the baby sprinkle.

This is also another type of party called "sip and see" that is used after the baby arrives. It allows close friends and family to gather and celebrate the baby after it is born.

No matter how big the party is...a baby shower is just a gathering of friends and family to celebrate a new child.

I hope that helps.

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A new mom is always a mom-to-be
by: Amanda

I think that every child deserves a celebration, whether it is #1 or #5. It doesn't have to be anything big, just a gathering of friends and family showing that they care about the new mom and the baby. I like the idea of a baby sprinkle. I had already bought all the big stuff for the first baby so I thought I was pretty set when baby #2 came along. But I was amazed how much all of the small stuff added up. A baby sprinkle or a diaper shower would have really helped me out on my second child. I would have no problem going to one for a friend of mine.

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