Who To Invite To Daughter-In-Law's Baby Shower

I am hosting a party for my daughter-in-law that will mostly be our side of the family. My daughter-in-law lives in another state as does her sister, 2 brother's (both married) and her mother. Is it proper etiquette to invite her family to my shower? Do I invite her grandparents on that side also?

Thanks for your help!

Our Answer:

Hi,

Thank you for your etiquette question. I am not sure if the baby shower is going to be held in your state or hers? Is she having another baby shower that is involving her family?

I would ask your daughter in law. There is no problem inviting her family to your family baby shower if there are no other family baby showers going on. She could also give the best advice on whether she feels they would like an invitation or not.

If your baby shower is in another state, her family might have problems traveling to the party. If there are no other baby showers being held for her and it is going to be held in your state, go ahead and send invites to her family.

That way they feel like they are included in the celebration if they would like to attend. If both families get along well and she feels comfortable with it, there is nothing wrong in including her family members in the celebration. If it is too far for them to travel, it might spark the idea for someone on her side to throw her a shower.

If she is already receiving a baby shower where she lives and the family is part of the celebration, you might want to send invitations to her parents as a courtesy. Certainly not required, but it is a nice gesture.

I hope that helps. Good Luck planning the baby shower.

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pretend invitations
by: Anonymous

what do you do with a relative who pretends to send invitations that are never received.
This has happened repeatedly.

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I'm sorry
by: Nisha- Editor

I'm sorry that your wishes are not being respected. One of the hardest things to deal with when throwing a baby shower is all the different opinions and feelings involved with putting the party together. Your opinions as the mom-to-be should be listened to. If you don't want invitations sent to your side of the family due to distance, that should be respected.

Your mother-in-law is probably trying her best to make a good celebration for you, I am just sorry that you feel your opinions are not being heard.

I hope everything works out with your party.

Nisha

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Don't Take Liberties
by: Anonymous

My mother in law is throwing me an unwanted shower. I live overseas and I have no family or friends in her area, and none of them would be financially able to attend something so far away. Despite the fact that I've explained to her multiple times that my family members might feel guilty for not attending if they were invited, she insists on inviting them anyway. I find it extremely distasteful, and rude.

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I did...
by: Sammie

When I had my baby shower last year; I invited all of my husband's family from out of state. The list consisted of my mother-in-law, 2 brothers, a sister and his grandparents. I figured immediate family would appreciate the gesture. I sent everyone else birth announcements. Hope that helps!

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Not Invited To Baby Shower
by: Anonymous

My brother's wife's sister is having a baby shower out of state and invited my mother but not me. Is that right?

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